Case Study - Reciprocal Conciliation
Is it possible?
It is difficult to predict whether a reciprocal conciliation between officer(s) and surviving loved ones is possible or even necessary. Because suicide-by-cop purposely involves another human being to complete the act, it is a method of suicide that affects victims from both sides of the badge. This concept may be difficult for next of kin to understand, but it is nonetheless deeply realized by the officer involved.
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Case Study
Deputy Glenn Vincent
Family and Friends of Denise Mondello
Deputy Glenn Vincent
She [Mondello] used me to kill herself.
After the shooting, Vincent pursued counseling. Ten years later, he felt compelled to write to the Mondello family.
It was a difficult letter to write.
Denise Mondello's mother responded to him by phone.
When I heard her voice, I broke down crying. After ten years, I was still hurting inside. She was very comforting. - Deputy Glenn Vincent.
Denise Mondello
Family and Friends of Denise Mondello
Deputy Glenn Vincent
Please forgive me. My intention was never to hurt anyone. This was just a sad and sick rouse [sic] to get someone to shoot me. I'm so very sorry for pulling innocent people into this. I just didn't have the nerve to pull the trigger myself. - Denise Mondello
Family and Friends of Denise Mondello
Family and Friends of Denise Mondello
Family and Friends of Denise Mondello
She just happened to pick him [Deputy Glenn Vincent.] to do what she couldn’t do herself. - Paul Mondello, brother of Denise Mondello
As friends of hers, we wanted to extend our condolences to you. We know you must be hurting and going through a rough time. Our feelings and love go out to you. - Friends of Denise Mondello